tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445555648206821802.post2963551522624741237..comments2010-01-21T22:37:28.835+08:00Comments on A mother's love liberates: issues i have to deal with at this very momenthobo_mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05607623357159866922noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445555648206821802.post-80249600799143134042009-06-17T09:23:41.640+08:002009-06-17T09:23:41.640+08:00a million thanks to all who visited my blog and le...a million thanks to all who visited my blog and leave a positive comments...hobo_mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05607623357159866922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445555648206821802.post-6405955035214063862009-06-15T14:56:17.855+08:002009-06-15T14:56:17.855+08:00Hello Homo_mum,
Im now preggy with my second baby....Hello Homo_mum,<br />Im now preggy with my second baby. Its now my 35th week..and its tiring to travel to-fro KL-Seremban everyday! But, I keep setting my mind not to think on my terrible backache (due to my back-bone injury)& the risk on possibility to accdntally pop my baby out while im in the bus, BUT I focus my mind on the excitement I have in: my daily office-chore plus the fact to wait that moment when a cute tiny baby will be back in my arms and breastfeeding. what a wonderful experience a mom would ever have!!<br /><br />And believe me, I've had gone through a mother-guilt-feeling period that you are now facing, with my first daugher. Shes now 2 yrs 5 months.An infact,im still having the feeling deeply inside my heart when I look into her innocent dark beautiful eyes. <br />Well, dont feel down, actually for me, to have that guilt-feeling is a good sign for a very loving & caring mother as we just being a normal mom. I too had (and still have) that certain degree of untrustfulness towards babysitter coz we can never judge on what basis our kids are being taken care, is it on love-basis or is it on profit making-basis???<br />OMG! its a stressful mind to keep thinking on it! My husband always said "Leave it to God".<br /><br />Its such an unending worry if I keep thinking abt it..but,as for my case, I've got no choice other than to earn and keep earning as to help my parents, family & to help my hubby financially. To quit from my job??-->its an out-of-question issue for time being and being a working mom+separated from my toddler for almost 14 hours a day is a 'jihaad' (battling) for me & you rite now. Its kind of jihaad with our own mind & emotion. I know its not easy and infact it hurts most of the time for me&you to feeling guilty. In this respect, we have to BELIEVE in GOD and TAWAKKAL. Always pray pray and pray for God is always Listening.<br />But, pray is not enough if we do not embark anything to solve it, right? <br /><br />Im also dreaming to work at home..(well, if its a dream its not realistic, isnt it? hhehe..) okay..Let us all together IMAGINING to work at home so that we can work and spent time with our kids 24/7. But mind you, it needs extra-discipline as your door may be knocked knocked by un-understanding guests in our "home-office-hour". haha.<br />Another big issue is SOHO (small office home office) is not sth very well-accepted in Malaysia, maybe its because we havent reached that Developed country/nation yet. To practise SOHO work-style we (the country) have to have a conducive 'work-environment' esp the ICT must me superb! <br />its a long way to go isnt it? <br />(Personally, for Malaysia to have a high quality modal insan, first&foremost it has to start from home--> mother to kids bond must be very good.If we cannot go for SOHO for working mother why not improving our Childcare System?? The regulators must first come with a GOOD POLICY especially in Breast-feeding and CHILDCARE CENTRE. I hope Datin Sri Rosmah's work on PERMATA will show some benifial results!<br /><br />My all lady-reader friends..<br />What about starting with passive-income first. like opening online business etc then, after getting enough saving, we'll start launching our SOHO.And dont forget to invite me to your SOHO launcing..<br /><br />Keep up a good motherhood job, sist! And all the best for your job.<br /><br />Do visit my blog for experience/knowledge sharing. ummunawwar.blogspot.comummunawwarhttp://www.ummunawwar.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445555648206821802.post-80900269447179576832009-06-07T12:45:47.339+08:002009-06-07T12:45:47.339+08:00Salam Homo_Mum,
I'm Hanum, Ija's blog rea...Salam Homo_Mum,<br /><br />I'm Hanum, Ija's blog reader/friend who is currently doing my PgDip in Psychology at Melbourne Uni. <br /><br />Reading Ija's article on Stay-at-Home-Mom introduce me to your blog. <br /><br />Just wanna share a blog of my friend regarding the same issue, but from a different perspective. She is a stay-at-home-mom who do an online business.<br /><br />http://mytripletspunye.blogspot.com/2009/05/stay-at-home-mom.html<br /><br />Hope the link works! And hope her article and the comments that she received from her readers will help you in making your decision.<br /><br />May Allah ease your heart in making this decision.<br /><br />Salam.-hanum-noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445555648206821802.post-89621116831408154262009-06-07T12:04:52.405+08:002009-06-07T12:04:52.405+08:00hi homo mum,
i understand the situation u face n...hi homo mum, <br /><br />i understand the situation u face now, i dulu pun rasa cam u, berbelah bagi nak kerja atau tau ..(my case lain sikit, sebab masa qarissa 4 bulan dalam perut, i resign) so all the time mmg kat brumah dan malas nak carik kerja lain coz tgh pregnant . Niat di hati nak kerja balik lepas bersalin but makin lama dgn Q, makin susah i nak kerja balik.. its so hard to explain kan ...i rasa hanya ibu ibu jer yg leh paham that feeling ..<br /><br />me too have own business since i kerja dulu, cuma dulu time kerja taklah begitu fokus, maksudnya kalau ada sales, adalah, if takder, i still got my monthly salary. cuma bila dah jadi WAHM, i treat the business seriously lah kan ..sebab tak mau susahkan my husband plak ..susah jugak kalau only 1 income ni, so mmg kena struggle lebih lah ..<br /><br />tapi alhamdulillah, tuhan mudahkan jalan i, DIA yg lebih tahu niat kita kan, so far i dah resign setahun 6 bulan kot, setakat nih my life before & after resign tak banyak beza. maksud i, i still jalani normal life macam i kerja dulu, belanja guna duit sendiri, tak harap gaji suami, bil bil rumah & all expenses masih bhg dua with hubby.semua masih in order like i kerja jugak..bezanya satu jer .. i can spent 24/7 with my dotter, fully bf dia, play & learn together & she showed tremendous development so far. alhamdulillah sangat ..kalau htr ker nursery @ maid jaga, tak pasti camner perkembangan dia ..<br /><br />sumtime i risau juga (ni pun ada panggilan interview SPA) i tak tahulah camner ..80% cam tak pergi kot that interview..:( tapi i berserah jer lah ..maybe bila dia dah ebsar sikit i kerja balik ker ..i pun susah nak cakap (kalau ada 2nd baby camner pulak erk ...) <br /><br />u buat apa yg u rasa terbaik utk keluarga. Kalau bisnes u skang boleh cover ur lifestyle sama macam u kerja, then u boleh fokus that bisnes dan majukan lagi. if not, maybe u kukuhkan sket dulu, then only decide...i believe allah will always help u coz DIA tahu isi hati u terhadap ur lovely dotter<br /><br />Feel free to surf my blog cerita pasal my experience during mothers day ..<br />http://geniusqarissa.blogspot.com/2009/05/mothers-day-erti-sebuah-pengorbanan.html<br /><br />May allah bless u always ..<br /><br />Rgds,<br />WatieWatie Azizhttp://geniusqarissa.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7445555648206821802.post-44024823257257100052009-06-04T08:22:28.583+08:002009-06-04T08:22:28.583+08:00i wrote something about stay at home mom...in resp...i wrote something about stay at home mom...in response to ur troubled mind..check out at my blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com